Family traditions often face their greatest test when children leave home for college. For one mother, the end of Sunday family dinners created a void that simple phone calls couldn't fill.
What began as a monthly experiment in virtual togetherness has evolved into a sustainable tradition that keeps her sons connected to their roots, regardless of distance.
For years, Sunday night family dinners were non-negotiable in the Struble household. Whether the Packers secured another victory, a swim meet ran late, or homework loomed for Monday morning, that shared meal remained sacred.
When her two sons headed off to college, the quiet Sundays became more subdued. While she and her husband could enjoy a leisurely dinner with wine, something essential was missing.
The meal needed that seasoning from my sons' snarky retort, a roaring laugh, and even that persistent eye roll.
The absence of their distinctive energy transformed the weekly ritual into a reminder of what had been lost. The simple act of eating together had provided a window into their developing personalities and growing perspectives.
"The meal needed that seasoning from my sons' snarky retort, a roaring laugh, and even that persistent eye roll."
Recognizing that geographic distance shouldn't sever family bonds, she developed an innovative approach to maintain their connection. The monthly virtual pizza night became the answer to preserving their tradition.
The system operates with simple efficiency:
She selects a specific day and time each month
She compiles pizza orders for her sons and their roommates
Everyone receives simultaneous delivery to their dorms
They connect via FaceTime to eat and chat together
Her oldest son prefers meat-heavy toppings while his younger brother enjoys variety, so she orders enough pizza for everyone—including all the roommates and friends who might be present.
Everyone is family at the table.
While she doesn't force guests to participate in conversation, everyone must appreciate the established "rules" of the gathering.
The video call format provides more meaningful interaction than typical check-in texts. Instead of one-word replies, she gets genuine responses and shared laughter across the screen.
Some might view the pizza deliveries as a form of bribery for interaction, but the mother sees it differently. She recognizes that family traditions extend beyond major holidays and birthdays—making time for each other remains vital, and food serves as the perfect catalyst.
Over the years, these shared meals have revealed profound insights about her sons' development:
Deeper understanding of personal relationships
Appreciation for different cultures
Growing interest in family history
Listening to their word choices, watching their argument construction, and even observing their quiet moments provides more insight than any phone call or text message could when they're away from home.
The monthly pizza night has proven successful enough that she plans to continue it long after her sons graduate. Whether one ends up in Florida or the other halfway around the world, the tradition can adapt.
Pizza—or any version of flatbread—exists virtually everywhere in the world, eliminating excuses for skipping dinner. Even on a cruise ship in the middle of the ocean, family pizza night remains on the schedule.
No matter how I slice it, the concept works.
For parents seeking to maintain strong family bonds, creative solutions surround us. Whether it's pizza, grandma's cookies, or a Big Mac, food remains a universal form of communication that transcends distance.
This story demonstrates that family traditions can evolve with technology while maintaining their essential purpose. The monthly virtual dinner provides more than sustenance—it nourishes the family connection.
The approach proves particularly effective for college students who might otherwise drift toward minimal contact. By combining the universal appeal of pizza with the intimacy of video calls, this mother has created a sustainable model for long-distance family bonding.
Most importantly, the tradition reinforces that shared experiences matter more than physical proximity. Time spent together, even virtually, nourishes relationships far beyond the food served on the plate.
